By Roohi Gupta,Punjab : With the rapid increase in industrialization and urbanization on the one hand and the increase in poverty and unemployment on the other hand, women’s life styles in many countries are undergoing a subtle but significant change.All over the world, in terms of family life, women are slowly shifting away from the patterns of early marriage, child bearing and joint families to longer durations of ‘ Singleness’.
Acording to the socialist ,” Female headed household is one in which the female is the major provider or protector,carrier,bearer and decision maker in the household.” There are amny reasons behind women’s singleness such as divorce, widowhood, separation, economic factors and so on.If we consider the most important reason of female headed household is extra-marital affairs then it will be nothing wrong in it.It has become trend of today’s life. Everyone has thought in their mind that to have extra-marital affairs is matter of their status in society. They boast of this in front of their social circle.
They do have sexual intimation with others and go for paid sex. Hence, it gives rise to separation or divorce. The death of one partner is also the cause.The life of struggle begins from this moment. When she goes out in search of job, everyone tries to make her the subject of their sexual lust.They think that noone in family is to protect her anymore.
All of us think that the woman who run her own family, she is very bold, courageous and confident. We think that she makes her own decisions independently. We never try to look deeply into her life. If we do so then we come to know about her difficulties and obstacles. She has to face new challenges everyday. Woman who is well educated get job very easily and earn well and those who are not much qualified, earning become difficult.
A well earner sometimes fail to meet their chidren’s needs. She has to carry all expenses alone. She gives her best so that her children does not feel that their father is not with them. Here I am quoting the incidence of my best friend, Gurtej. He recently resided in Singapore. He is earning well there. His parents are divorced. He lives with his mother. His mother told him that when she decided to separate from his father, she faced many problems. Her family did not support her. She was completely all alone to give new start to her life.
Her family believed that a woman cannot b the head of family.She cannot be provider and protector of her family. But she proved them wrong. She worked very hard and fulfilled the needs of her son. He respects a lot her efforts and love her very much. But still he craves for the love his father. Family can only be complete with the parents not with the one parent. Through this incidence, I want to highlight the struggling life of woman in male dominated society after separation and when she becomes head of the family.
Man leaves her without any responsibilty like useless toy. He thinks that if she divorces her then her life will come to an end. But he forgets that this the woman who bears him in her womb for nine months.If she can give a birth to new baby and feed him for two years then can’t she run her family. Male believes that a woman can’t be father and support financially alone. She proved them wrong. She faces many challenges and says confidently ,” Yes, I am a Woman and can run my family alone”.
Roohi this is so true… its a fact…if women can create a men or a life thn she must have a power to run her family alone… if a woman is in family or with her husband or working.. thn she also run her family alone bcoz a women is only responsible for her job her husband her parents her inlaws her children her or every ritual or so on…i really appreciate ur article.. well done Roohi…
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very lovely written……its really motivating article….
thanx alot….i want to motivate all the women who are suffering from the pain of separation..dnt feel weak urself…u also ave potentials but only need to polish…
Roohi , this is a very good write up. You have written with “rooh”.
Keep it up.
Regards
pradeep