Part 1 by SIFF Members
Dear Eligible Bachelor,
So you are thinking of getting married? Congratulations! But before you start on this wonderful new journey, please be aware of some Indian marriage laws that could easily destroy your life, sanity, reputation and assets if you marry the wrong woman.
You will be surprised to learn that in the year 2011 alone, as many as 1,39,403 men(husbands/ husband’s father/ brothers /male relatives) and 41,298 women (husband’smother/ sisters/ female relatives) were arrested under such cruel laws .Understandably, in 2011 itself 62,433 Indian husbands committed suicide (i.e. asuicide every 9 minutes) because of legal pressures and harassment unleashed onthem by their wives and in-laws. With thousands of cases (498A) happening per year,this is a social time-bomb! Please note that these laws are applicable only if you marry a girl from India, because no other country approves of such ridiculously one-sided and gender biased laws.
We know, you are probably thinking that this will never happen to you. Well, we sincerely hope so too. But please do yourself a favor and read on, because this knowledge could prove to be a life-saver in case your wife turns out to be different from what she currently seems to be. We are not trying to scare you off from marrying your loved one, but just informing you of the true and bitter experiences of millions of Indianmen like us who ended up being jailed, harassed, blackmailed and extorted by the irunscrupulous wives and in-laws.
Who are we?
“We are the ones who got hit. Now we are trying to save you”. We are a group of voluntary activists who have so far saved thousands of innocenthusbands and their families from going to jail (if they contacted us before it was to late). We offer help free of cost and our members meet on weekly basis in theirrespective cities across India and abroad to provide support to victims. We guide themhow to defend themselves legally and make their opposition run for their money. Wealso try our best to warn potential victims ( like you ) and we join our hands to opposemore such upcoming gender-biased laws that are currently being drafted.
Our average age is 30, and most of us are well qualified engineers, doctors, and MBAsfrom prestigious institutions in India and abroad. We were doing very well in our careersbefore we found ourselves dragged into false cases that were fabricated by our wivesand in-laws. We all have either faced/are facing/or are about to face such falseaccusations based on misuse of Indian women-oriented laws. Many of us and our familymembers were forced into jails for no fault of ours. While suffering due to such inhumanlaws ourselves, we realized the importance of timely and accurate information, which we are now spreading through this document. Even if you never face the same nightmare as we did, pass this information on to someone who might be harassed and victimized by his wife and in-laws.
Current Indian Laws regarding Marriage Part 2
Warning Signs of an Abusive Personality and Future 498A girl/family part 3
Precautionsby siff members Part 4
Act in favor of women part 5
It is a good start in news media at national level to spread awareness on potential abusive wives and her parents who hold husband his family to ransom and extortion. Such articles must be spread and published in foreign media also.
I and my visiting elder sister and mother lived for a week in slums and in the darkness of forest cover out side city in Jaipur Rajasthan for the fear and harassment from run-away wife from NOIDA, UP and police from there in filing 498a case against us. We starved for several days remaining into hiding, and none of our other relatives gave us any shelter during this period or any help to us.
excellent article – youngsters who ignore will one day understand the significance of the above article. Every man lives in denial thinking it will never happen to him because we never took dowry or that we treat our wife well. Unfortunately I too was one of them.
Very interesting read and it confirms my thoughts about the laws. Thanks for the interesting article and please do mention how to reach out to you guys.
very nicely organized, only missing part in this doc is
it should have a para to describes ignorance at the begining….
1. I am a good guy, it wont happen to me!!
2. This data does not seem to be true, 9 min , 1 married man died in 2011, I wont beleave
Dear, Thanks for your feedback.All data was picked from National Crime records bureau and available on their website http://ncrb.gov.in/
Today Indian men have become so vulnerable to these wife favoring laws, that slowly Indian men who used to boast of valour, courage and high self esteem would be converted into a domesticated cow.
If govt. doesnt takes any step to abolish these gender biased laws for urban educated women of India, soon the very fabric of Indian family system will breakdown. Marriage would be nothing else but a transaction on paper.
INDIAN MEN WAKE UP….THESE LAWS WILL SOONER OR LATER START AFFECTING YOU DIRECTLY.
Thanks a lot to the writers and congratulate them for this wonderful piece of book. As usual, men are always deprived of their rights legally in this country and this book is a guide as to how to escape potential abusive and exploitation from wife and her parents
thnaks to the writer and the publisher for show casing the need to put up the issues which the groom side thinks that its OK, nothing willhappen, after marriage girl will understand and take responsibilties, BUT BUT things which do seems normal to one but it may be abnormal to others, so one should b very cautious to go for that family and their links/ relatives link with false matrimonial cases.
Thanks a ton for highlighting a problem which:
1) is letting 62000 married men committing suicide every year.
2) is letting govt. waste 45000 crore rupees on 1 lakh false cases filed every year.
3) is letting atleast 6 lakh of false arrests of innocent mothers,sisters& fathers.
4) is promoting breakdown of indian family system.
The time has come when govt. should take immediate steps to amend such badly drafted matrimonial laws.
a) Make 498a gender neutral, bailable, cmopoundable, non-cognizable.
b) Make Domestic Violence act gender neutral.
c) Make adultery gender neutral.
good write-up
Dear Siff member,
I am married almost 4 year ago i married with a bhopal girl through the some matrimonial site. I was happy as my wife told me she will respect my feeling and my parents. But after 10 days of my marriage she started showing her style.
But i was shy of society and my parents. What should i say toi my parents as my parents were against this marriage due to online. She is also from my cast , cast was not a problem.
Now we have a child 1 year old , she also working with education department as a teacher. Her relatives are good advocate, she always threat to go to court.She is not using her sallery at all .
When i asked to use some money she said , this is a duty of a husband to run house. Now we are not living with my parents after her resistance and daily dispute with my mom and dad. we shifted after 6 month of marriage.
Please guide me what should i do , i am affraid of society , what they will think. After the birth of my son , we are not living in a same room from almost 1 and half year. AS she told me if i touch her she will make a complaint of rape.
After that day i dont sleep with the same bed. My friend advised me not to talk this kind of wife. As when ever i say some thing good , she start shouting me and said i am harrasing her . Kindly guide me how can itackle this kind of situation and what are the law if a women is government employye as well as i am government employye.
Regards
Rohit
Indore,MP
Rohit pleas visit sif site and contact to local sif members and joind team and take prevention action based on SIf members suggestion…at least you can save youself…join the group saveindianfamily@yahoogroups.com
web site.
Please visit SIFF website (Save Indian Family Foundation) and speak to the nearest helpline numbers and visit a weekly meeting.
join SIFF. search in google about siff
Excellent article. Anyone facing such domestic violence should not be afraid of soceity. after all you need to fight against the society, if you are afraid how will you fight. Join SIFF, come to meetings, break this social jinx of women being victims at ever forum…you should be fearless crusader not afraid of conviction for a crime that you have never committed..
This is true…before marriage I also assumed that it will never happen with me but destiny cant stop ways….. Small things can create problem in marriage life and lady and her smart relative can give you wedding gift in terms of 498A, 125, Dv etc.. and result of this you can see yourself and your beloved i.e. father , mother, sister even all relatives in jail and facing false allegation for many years… Please read this article if you are going to marry…We are not scaring you but prevention action before marriage…so you can save yourself and your beloved ones….
Thanks to the writers of this great Epic of “Cautions before marriage”. Thanks a lot to TIP for posting this and making youngsters aware about these draconian laws.
Nothing more to add. Will only request readers to read and READ this document and also share it with their friends and their Network.
It was sudden surprise to every one as India shines for ancient culture then how such drastic steps like SUISIDE BOMB scene arise after got married with Indian girl, was an sad attitude for development ideas
in a poor country .