By Roohi Gupta, Punjab : We all think that prostitution is the curse for our society. Basically, we only know that a woman who have sexual relationship with many men, she is prostitute. If this is called prostitution then it means a woman don’t have any right to have relationship with any man. I want to put a light on the thoughts of people that a woman who is sexually involved with many men is not prostitute but she became prostitute when man pay her for all this. Prostitution is the use of a woman’s body for sex by a man, he pays money and he does what he wants.
The minute you move away from what reality is, you move away from prostitution into the world of ideas. Prostitution is not an idea. It is the mouth, the vagina, the rectum, penetrated usually by a penis, sometimes hands, sometimes objects, by one man and then another and then another and then another and then another. That’s what it is.
We never try to know about the reasons behind this unpleasured job. No woman wants to expose herself physically in front of everyone. Money forces her to do this. Economic pressures, lack of income source, low educational profile and poverty are the main causes for accepting the prostitution. When woman have to run the family and she has no income source, even no high educational profile then she has no alternative except this.Because that time she has to feed her family and children. Sometimes woman is trapped into this by her closed ones. Here I am sharing with you my conversation I had with my friend, Sylvia. I know her from the last three years.
We were classmates. She was good at studies but due to weak economic condition she would not be able to complete her further studies. She got marry but her problems had not come to an end. Her husband is drunkard. He battered her with his friend. As the time passes by, he just began to do all this for money. He sends her to his contacts and in return got money from them. She wants to leave all this. I was so hurt that we can’t trust our dear ones too.
Our society is male dominant society. In this society, man often rules over the woman. Man always thinks that they have a right to do anything they want to do. He does not let woman to see the world in the actual way it is. He believes that he can dominate woman and handle her in his desirable way. He has decision making power in his hands which make him mad. He has in his mind that he can take every decision for her. If she takes any decision, he doubts her capabilities. He thinks that he has control of her dreams, life and desires.
Prostitutes always consider as dirt by our society. Oh! I made mistake not society its male society. If prostitutes are dirt, then someone ask our male society that why do they go to that dirt? Why do they pay her for sexual pleasure? In the most people’s minds the money is worth more than the woman. The two thousand, the three thousand, the five thousand, is worth much more than her whole life. The money is real, more real than she is. With the money he can buy a human life and erase its importance from every aspect of civil and social consciousness and society, from the protections of law, from any right of citizenship, from any concept of human dignity and human sovereignty.
Males often use the word ‘bitch’ for woman. They forget that is she is bitch then they are definitely bloody dog. Because a woman alone can never be a bitch. She became a bitch only when male being a dog used to go to different girls just for paid sex.
My friend went to Bangkok as a tourist. He told me that prostitution is legal there. Once he was passing through the market where the woman does this kind of job openly. He went to a girl who was very young. Here, I did not use the word prostitution for her because further you will come to know. He asked her the reason for doing all this. As he asked her, she burst into tears. She was only 19. She said that she had never seen sympathy for them in the eyes of man. They have only lust, brutality and disrespect. He took her to the restaurant and offered her dinner. There she told him her story. She worked hard in the day. She was only earner in the family. She has to feed her big family. The salary got from her job cannot fulfill the basic needs of big family. She was paying the graduation fees of her sister. She is doing this unwillingly job only for her family. After this, he gave her money to go back to her home without having sexual relationship.
I ask you to think concretely about your own bodies used that way. Is it fun? The people who defend prostitution and pornography want you to feel a kinky little thrill every time you think of something being stuck in a woman. I want you to feel the delicate tissues in her body that are being misused. I want you to feel what it feels like when it happens over and over and over and over and over and over and over again: because that is what prostitution is. She has nowhere to go. There is no cop to complain to; the cop may well be the guy who is doing it. When she needs medical help, it turns out he’s just another john. She is literally nothing.
The cure to this problem is political. That means taking power away from men. This is real stuff; it is serious stuff. They are only bullies. They do not have a right to what they have; and that means it has to be taken away from them. We have to take the power that they have to use us away from them. We have to take the power that they have to hurt us away from them. We have to take their money away from them. We need to take away their social dominance. We have so many choices to make. Now it’s a time to take step for our liberty, respect and equality.