By: Preeti Sharma : They say…..”there’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world and yet here we are ham – fisted at the game of love – the most basic human instincts……..”
Is love really so complicated….?????
Being into a relationship and caring a relation has become even more complex and difficult than any of the competitive exam today. A successful relationship needs continuous efforts, demands sacrifices, looks for compromises and always seek for unconditional love. But today’s generation believe more in frequent hook ups than in investing time and efforts into one relationship. For us meeting more and more people has become more important than knowing a one person for a long time. It is not love our generation looking but thrill, excitement and adventure in life. We have become enemy of our own selves, often times we let the things we can control have control over us. We are the part of community where no one want to invest their efforts in love instead they make fun of the ones who are devoted in love….. No one believes in the beauty of predictability because we are too blinded by the thrill of adventure. There is no space for love in our fast moving lives. We are the generation seeking instant gratification, maximum number of likes and comments on facebook post gives more happiness than a coffee date with the loved one. Nowadays having an attractive partner is way more important than having an intelligent partner. We are ‘Social’ people, we believe in options which can be opted according to changes of society.
It is not only a case with boys even the girls today have become very much practical and modern. They want someone who can make them party animals, no restrictions, no limits, no relationships. We want crowd, noise and unending chaos no one wants to understand the silence…… Even no silences have remained so deep these days that need to be understood. Instead of looking for partner for life we look for the person who can make us feel alive now. A slightest attraction towards someone turns into a relationship and the moment we find someone better the feeling change and relationship status also. We are the quitters, we don’t try to bring out best in one person rather we keep looking for the one who is perfect in himself. Definition of dating is changed…. Texting whole night, making videos calls once in a week and posting more and more pictures together defines dating these days. Technology has swept away the the physical presence. The best couples are the people who can twin perfectly instead of knowing their partners completely.
We are commitment phobic, we don’t like staying at one place for long time we don’t want to be called old fashioned instead we have become wanderers. We are in continuous effort of proving ourselves different fro others, we believe that we don’t conform the social norms. We are the modern generation who will never understand how to love madly and how to be loved crazily.
We all are scared… scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow ourselves to step out and love some one unconditionally…. We are afraid to love someone who cannot benefit from our love with spiritual growth, we are afraid to waste our energy. We are afraid to cast a seed on arid ground…….
What we are looking for is… a date for Sunday morning brunch, someone to commiserate with during the drudge of Mondayz, a taco Tuesday partner, someone to text us good morning on Wednesday, we just want a plus one for all the friends party and to update status on social media.
Let’s try to believe in Love once more, let’s preserve the good people for ourselves instead of letting them go to “other fishes in the sea”.
“To bare our soul to only one known person will still be way more easier than baring our body to many strange persons.”