CRISP announces PROTEST Father’s Day on June 15 as family court denied permission for celebrations , Father’s Day is observed every year on the third Sunday of June in order to,
1. Realise the paramount importance of a father in child’s life,
2. Create awareness about the issues and problems faced by fathers,
3. Promote the cause of shared parenting,
4. Create awareness about the negative effects of parental alienation syndrome,
5. The sociological consequences of the creation of a fatherless society,
6. Honour and respect the sacrifices made by fathers for their children and family,Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), an NGO dedicated to promote the cause of Shared Parenting and Father’s rights has been championing the cause since 2008 and has counselled thousands of grieving fathers who have been alienated from their children by a slow family courts system.
The Problems: There are many fathers, as per research done by CRISP, who are not allowed to see their children let alone spending quality time with them. Not only that, the child is used as a bargaining tool by the custodial parent (often separated mothers) to force fathers for financial gain even when it is not justified. Ultimately, fathers are reduced to the state of being mere sperm donors and ATM machines.
1. Many men face threats of false cases of dowry harassment, domestic violence, kidnapping, child molestation, sexual abuse of child if they make attempts to meet their children against the wish of their wives.
2. CRISP has also come across many cases wherein women just wait to get a child out of wedlock and as soon as the child is born, they start abusing the husband and do not allow him to spend time with his own child.
3. When a couple goes through separation, the child is used as a pawn not only to get maintenance, but also for playing emotional games on the father so as to control him. Many women poison the child against the father when the father is out on work and thus create ripples in the father-child relationship. Such poisoning harms both the child and the father.
4. The family courts have often shown extreme delay and reluctance to grant visitation rights to fathers and even when visitation orders are passed, there is no practical mechanism available to enforce the same or punish the custodial parent for violating such orders. While it is imperative that family courts grant open access to fathers and facilitating them to see their children, such orders are a rarity instead of being a norm.
Celebrity custody cases:
Recently we saw two cases of celebrity child custody wherein fathers had to struggle very hard to get access to their own children. One case was of Mr. Leander Paes while the other was of Mr. Sanjay Kapoor (Bollywood actor Karishma Kapoor’s husband).
While Leander’s wife Rhea Pillai allegedly made false allegations against him so that he cannot get the custody of their daughter, Sanjay’s wife Karishma Kapoor, on the other hand, is not allowing him to meet the kids. As a result both the fathers had to go through emotional turmoil in order to merely meet their children.
When a marriage breaks, this is a common occurrence that mothers use the children as weapon to settle the separation on their conditions. In these custody battles, two things always ignored are – the rights of father and the rights of children. Both the father and children have a right to build a sustainable parent-child relationship and this right cannot be denied to either.
These two cases clearly highlight the despicable condition of fathers in the society and if powerful men like Leander Paes and Sanjay Kapoor are to meet this fate, one can only imagine the condition of a common man caught in a custody battle with his estranged wife and the father and their children facing the wrath of an insensitive and slow family court system.
Fatherless society dangerous:
As we know fathers play a vital role in the development of a child. In the United States of America, reported statistics tells that Children from fatherless homes are:
1. 5 times more likely to commit suicide
2. 32 times more likely to run away from home.
3. 20 times more likely to have behavioural disorders
4. 14 times more likely to commit rape.
5. 9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
6. 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances (become drug addicts)
7. 9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
8. 20 times more likely to end up in prison.
9. 3 million teenage girls have sexually transmitted diseases
10. At least 1 out of 4 teenagers (between 14years to 19years) suffers from sexually transmitted diseases.
Should we not want such statistics to repeat in India; its time India Inc. takes a pledge to make Shared Parenting and Joint Custody of children, during separation and post-divorce, as a mandatory provision.