By Rajesh vakharia : “Just like a man misusing his physical strength on a woman is called a rapist , a female misusing her legal strength on a man must be also called as a rapist. “
— A Gender rights activist
What is Rape ?
The wordrapeitself originates from the Latin verbrapere: to seize or take by force. According to the feminists Rape is about power, not sex. A rapist uses actual force or violence — or the threat of it — to take control over another human being. Rape is categorized as a crime against humanity.
How can a rapist exercise power on a victim?
A rapist can exercise power on a victim either physically or legally. When it comes to physical rapes since men are physically more powerful than women and this results in a significantly larger percentage of physical rape victims being women .
There are also a lot of instances when a wife wants to illegally exercise her power on her husband and use actual force or the threat of it to take control of her husband. In these instances the wife legally rapes the husband using government backed laws and misusing the state machinery.
What is a legal rape ?
A legal rape is a situation when a person used the legal system to unleash trauma and violence on the victim in order to exercise power on the victim and to control the victim.
How Indian husband are legally raped?
In order to exercise her control and power over her husband ore in some instances punish him for not towing her line Indian wives frequently resort to using her legal power to unleash trauma and suffering on the husband many times over his entire family . Primary among the tools of legal rape are section 498a , DV act of 2005 , Maintenance and Child custody laws.
The symptoms leading to the legal rape have an uncanny similarity to the physical rape of women.
a) The legal rapist is always close acquaintance of the victim in the from of wife , daughter in law or sister-in-law.
b) The victim refuses to abide by the whims of the rapist.
c) The rapist develops deep rooted hatred for the victim and has a desire to control the life of the victim and exercise power over the victim.
d) The rapist uses her legal force to rape the victim.
e) Many times the wife legally rapes the husband impulsively as opportunity presently itself and might later regret the act.
f) Very often the legal rapists say that the trigger for the legal rape was when a husband made them angry, usually by rebuffing a wife’s whims and fancies or toeing her line.
The effects of Legal Rape ?
Just like the symptoms the aftermath if a legal rape is also similar to a physical rape.
Victims of legal rape can be severely traumatized by the assault and may have difficulty functioning as well as they had been used to prior to the assault, with disruption of concentration, sleeping patterns and eating habits, for example. They may feel jumpy or be on edge. After being legally raped, it is common for the victim to experience acute stress disorder, including symptoms similar to those of posttraumatic stress disorder, such as intense, sometimes unpredictable, emotions, and they may find it hard to deal with their memories of the event. In the months immediately following the legal rape , these problems may be severe and very upsetting and may prevent the victim from revealing their ordeal to friends or family, or seeking police or medical assistance. Additional symptoms of Acute Stress Disorder include:
* Depersonalization or dissociation (feeling numb and detached, like being in a daze or a dream, or feeling that the world is strange and unreal)
* Difficulty remembering important parts of the assault
* reliving the assault through repeated thoughts, memories, or nightmares
* Avoidance of things, places, thoughts, and/or feelings that remind the victim of the assault
* Anxiety or increased alertness (difficulty sleeping, concentrating, etc.)
* Avoidance of social life
For one-third to one-half of the victims, these symptoms continue beyond the first few months and meet the conditions for the diagnosis of posttraumatic stress disorder
The facts of legal rape in India
- The incidence of legal rapes of husbands is thousands of percentages higher than that the physical rapes of women. The legal rape has become a profitable industry for the Lawyers and the Legal rapist wives.
- The legal rape system is backed by the government even though there is little difference between raping a woman by physical force and raping man using legal force .
- Physical rape affects one woman , while legal rape affects the family of the man including men , women and children
- In Legal rape the victim of the rape is asked to compensate the female rapist. No legal rapist has ever been [punished in India for committing such a heinous crime .
- The Indian government has no welfare schemes to rehabilitate the victims of legal rape. Instead finds are allocated to encourage females to legally rape husbands and protect them from prosecution for the legal rape.
male: 100300 female: 17939
Married Women 30224
2006 – 55452
2007 – 57593
2008 -57639
Suicide of Married Women:
2006 – 29869
2007 – 30064
2008 – 30224
The rate of increase of suicide of both men and women has decreased.
82 Suicides per day due to Family problems
==============================
872 Deaths per day due to Unnatural causes
1280 Deaths per day due to Accidents & Suicides
938 Deaths per day due to Accidents
342 Suicides per day 66 Deaths per day due to causes Attributable to
Nature like Lightning, Landslide etc.
8 Suicides per day due to Poverty
75 Suicides per day due to Illness
8 Suicides per day each due to Dowry Dispute and Bankruptcy
82 Suicides per day due to Family problems
10 Suicides per day due to Love Affairs
6 Suicides per day due to Failure in Examination
129 Suicides per day in the age group 0-29 years
119 Suicides per day in the age group 30-44 years
94 Suicides per day in the age group 45 years & above
122 Suicides by Female per day out of which 67 were House-wives
221 Suicides by Males per day
The most unfortunate part is that those ‘unmarried’ boys to not understand all this, and label rest of us as simply anti-women. Only few of them who has some close relatives like brothers, and seen them harassed in false cases will understand but under the pressure of society they will not be able to delay their marriage even.
The radical change can come, if a massive movement and protests happen, with also the women joining in the same.
Good points…
Having said that the law is anti male, the one way male can safeguard himself is by NOT marrying !!
how about a majority of the law abiding, honest, sincere male members of this country delaying ….NOT stopping but delaying marriage by 5 years ???
just delaying??
the whole marriage industry, the whole pandals, jewellery, saree industry, the banquet / food / restaurant industry will WAKE UP ….JUST WAKE UP
they will run for answers and find out why we haven’t got married
However do you think ANY …ANY of your unmarried friends or cousins or nephews will NOT marry and save themselves from the legal rape ??
??
therein lies the answer
men are ready to get raped for the sake of some sex …pure and simple
regards
Vinayak
JAAGO AB BHI SAMY HAI JAAGO
Sex and Woman always mis-used for black mail by hidden gangsters for petitious gain,to prevent such incident we have to focus an educated mind with all concerned people across the globe.
Sir well elaborated article.But the problem is that discussion after discussion how can we come to the solution.Think about solutions.You , the people come forward , guide millions of victims how we can get rid of such problem.How can we change our judiciary. Our judiciary is running by uneducated , zero educated .l, who have no any practical experience, how they could reform.Their mentality is not to serve the country as well as it’s people, they are just going their job and earn handsome salary.दुनियावाले भार मे जाय, पति को पत्नी ना मिले, पत्नी को पति ना मीले, बच्चों को अपना माँ बाप ना मिले, उन्ही मुर्ख लोगो को कोई परवा नहीं l Old aged law guide books , now time has come to throw those books in dustbin,those are nothing but dustbin papers now at present 22 St century.Time has changed, people’s choices has changed so time has come to reform laws according to people’s choice.
Beautiful, informative and knowledgeable article by you.Do continue write for us, our society.Thank you sir.